Comments for Dasi-Ziyad Family Institute http://dasiziyadfamilyinstitute.org Teaching healthy relationship skills to individuals, couples, families and communities, nationally and internationally. Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:42:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc Comment on “It Takes a Village to Support a Marriage or Family”, Jun,’08 by mermaidztail7 http://dasiziyadfamilyinstitute.org/2008/06/05/dzfi-june-2008-online-newsletter-it-takes-a-village-to-support-a-marriage-or-family/#comment-18 mermaidztail7 Sat, 07 Jun 2008 03:14:05 +0000 http://dasiziyadfamilyinstitute.org/2008/06/05/dzfi-june-2008-online-newsletter-it-takes-a-village-to-support-a-marriage-or-family/#comment-18 I believe in the African proverb: “It takes a village to support a marriage or family". Raising mentally and physically healthy children in todays society takes alot of hard work and determination. I was recently reading a book about emotionally focused couple therapy called, "Hold Me Tight" by Dr. Sue Johnson, it speaks of how we suffer from a dangerous loss of "social capital" which is a term coined in 1916 by a Virginia educator, who noted the continuous help, sympathy, and fellowship that neighbors offered each other. Most of us no longer live in supportive communities with our birth families or childhood friends close at hand. We work longer and longer hours, commute farther and farther distances, and thus have fewer and fewer opportunities to develop close relationships. She speaks of how most couples that come into therapy live in a community of "two". This leaves people with smaller and dropping numbers of people to confide in, which I find myself in at times. It is so important for humans to reach out, and create new relationships with families and people with like interests and "open" this tightened circle. I look forward to your newsletters and findings from the conferences you attend in order for us all to learn, grow and strengthen in our marriages and families. Happiness Always, Cathe James, Cypress, CA I believe in the African proverb: “It takes a village to support a marriage or family”. Raising mentally and physically healthy children in todays society takes alot of hard work and determination. I was recently reading a book about emotionally focused couple therapy called, “Hold Me Tight” by Dr. Sue Johnson, it speaks of how we suffer from a dangerous loss of “social capital” which is a term coined in 1916 by a Virginia educator, who noted the continuous help, sympathy, and fellowship that neighbors offered each other. Most of us no longer live in supportive communities with our birth families or childhood friends close at hand.

We work longer and longer hours, commute farther and farther distances, and thus have fewer and fewer opportunities to develop close relationships. She speaks of how most couples that come into therapy live in a community of “two”. This leaves people with smaller and dropping numbers of people to confide in, which I find myself in at times. It is so important for humans to reach out, and create new relationships with families and people with like interests and “open” this tightened circle. I look forward to your newsletters and findings from the conferences you attend in order for us all to learn, grow and strengthen in our marriages and families.

Happiness Always, Cathe James, Cypress, CA

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